Focus On The Things You Can Do Something About

 

Focus On The Things You Can Do Something About

Two frogs were playing together when suddenly they fell together into a bucket of cream.

One frog quickly realized he didn’t have any way to gain his footing to get out, so shortly afterwards he accepted his fate and slipped under the surface and drowned.

Horrified, the second frog watched his friend give up and die.

But he was determined not to go himself without putting up a fight. He wasn’t sure of the best thing to do, so he just thrashed around, doing whatever he could to keep himself afloat. In time, he began to notice that the cream was growing thicker. He kept kicking, and after a while he discovered that the cream had turned to butter and he could easily hop out.

Here’s the thing to remember:  What happens within us is at least as important as what happens to us.

We all face challenges—that’s a given, in leadership, work and in life.  It’s how we choose to respond that makes all the difference. And that can be tough to figure out, especially when things are difficult.

But if we don’t want to drown we have to focus on the action we can take.

Here are some helpful thoughts to help the next time you need to churn the cream into butter:

Focus on the route, not the destination.

Most of the time, you can’t know what the outcome will be. And that’s OK. Even the worst possibilities are seldom as dire as drowning in a bucket. Stumbles and failure are part of success, so take your focus off the results you fear and concentrate on your best path forward.

Focus on what you have, not what you lack.

Faced with a challenge, it’s easy to focus on what you’re missing. But there’s no better moment to take stock of who you are and what you have—within you and around you.

Focus on what you can do, and not what you can’t.

It’s always going to be easier to give up rather than to fight. But it means you’ll never move ahead. Put up a good fight and keep it up until the end.

Focus on containing the challenge and not drowning in the drama.

We all know someone who seems to magnify every problem they encounter. Don’t be that person. If there’s drama, walk away. If there’s discord and blaming, don’t participate. Keep your focus on solving the problem at hand.

Focus on trusting yourself and not wavering within.

Don’t allow anyone else to make decisions for you.  Remember, part of leadership is coming up with new ways of doing old things. Be the person who shows their leadership in times of challenge.

Challenges are tough and frightening. But, with the right focus, it can help you build a stronger version of yourself.

Lead from Within. When facing a difficult challenge we must focus on the things we can do something about—because struggling with challenges is a natural part of growing, developing, and leading.

 

Author : Lolly Daskal

Lolly Daskal is the president and Founder of Lead From Within a consulting firm specializing in executive leadership coaching and customized leadership programs. Connect with Lolly Daskal